Friday, December 12, 2014
Go Find Another Mother
I read an article recently, in a magazine while waiting for my car tires to be checked.
It has snowed here, a lot of snow already, I was hoping to be one of those people who knew what to do to be prepared for winter up here in the Frozen North. . aka .. New York State.
The article was written by a woman who had a grown "child", who was for the most part, loving and a good kid . But then, for whatever reason, the kid would erupt into insults or hateful speech to the mother, making her very sad and wondering ... Why ?
Talking to therapists and to "experts" ... the same old reasons and answers were trotted out ..
"Acting out , Childhood resentments , Frustration, etc " ...
If you ask me, I think it was just Spoiled Rotten Bad Behavior and that "child" was just a grown version of the spoiled brat that grew up.
Children trust that the love from a parent is boundless and that no matter what they say or do, they will be forgiven and still loved .
But in my opinion, there comes a time when the "child" is no longer a child, when the verbal abuse or insults become ugly and uncalled for and when the Parent should say , So long, Goodbye, See you when you become nice or not at all...
Go find Another Mother .. one who will put up with verbal abuse, one who might actually deserve to be spoken to that way .. or just go live your life without a mother and see how that feels.
You can visit with plenty of children who can tell you what that is about .. children who have much less than you .
It made me think of how no matter what you do or did with your own children as they grew up, you really never know what odd remark or behavior could have made a huge impression on the child and the adult the child becomes, will carry it with them.
Hopefully, we all made more huge Good Impressions on our children and never have to worry about them turning on us like mad dogs.
So in the case of the woman whose child just never could stop reverting back to the old abusive self, the woman finally said one day, Go Find Another Mother.